Body language – it’s something we all project (consciously or not) that can say a great deal about who we are and what we desire. Usually, I’m the timid type that tends to cross my arms over my chest and enter a room quietly… but what does this REALLY say about me? The Definitive Book of Body Language has those answers and more through an in-depth study of human gestures and perceptions that communicate intentions in very visible ways.
Take the arm gestures, for example. If you’re like me and like to fold your arms, chances are you are putting up barriers and are not a very inviting person to others. Also, this gesture can reduce your credibility among higher-ups in a job environment. Yikes! So if your also like me in that you’d like to change this about yourself (because, let’s face it, we’re nice people too!), Allan & Barbara Pease suggest holding something in your hands, like a notepad or pen. This will force you to unfold your arms and thus communicate to others that you prefer openness and honesty. Now, that’s more like it!
If you are a man, then your arms and hands may portray other nervous habits that suggest insecurity. Take Prince Charles, for example. You know the infamous cuff link adjust he does when walking among large crowds? According to Mr. & Mrs. Pease, this is to give himself a feeling of security in the wake of nervousness and anxiety. Other self-conscious moves often portrayed by men are rubbing hands together, adjusting a wrist watch, or any other gesture that allows the arms cross in front of the body. How interesting!
The Definitive Book of Body Language also covers the true meanings behind smiles and laughter, cultural differences, eye signals, and seating arrangements (e.g. why you chose that particular seat at the table).
This fascinating work is found under Dewey number 253.6 PEA.
What about you – do you have any nervous habits? What are you saying with your body language?